Met Gala 2016:“Manus x Machina: Fashion in an Age of Technology”

The Costume Institute at the Metropolitan Museum of Art held their annual gala with the theme reflecting changing technology trends in fashion. The exhibit along with attendees, even the food served at the Gala will exhibit this idea in some form. Here are the top 10 Picks of the Night:

1. Claire Danes in Zac Posen’s Modern Cinderella. Glow in the dark fabric is actually fiber-optic woven organza–getting the conventional Disney Princess a sci-fi twist.

2. Jourdan Dunn in a liquid metal Balmain. Futuristic overtones channeled through Fritz Lang’s Metropolis with android undertones.

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3. Naomi Watts in a silk organza corset gown by Burberry. Lined with sequins, bullion thread, fishtail skirt and covered in handmade metallic yarn flowers and glass beads. And imagery of plugging the dress in to charge it for power–electrical fusion.

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4. Nina Dobrev in a golden Marchesa confection with cap sleeves and delicate, pastel floral embellishments. Individually, hand-sewn for that classical, whimsical Disney Belle fantasy.

 

5. Rosie Huntington-Whiteley elegant in a clean Ralph Lauren. Minimalistic and flowing train–less futuristic theme and more of a homage to vintage Vogue.

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6. Gigi Hadid in a Tommy Hilfiger metallic bodice with sheer overlay and chiffon silk garnering a rocker chic feel and Zayn Malik appearing as a Knight in Shining Armor. She appearing as Queen Guinevere and him as Sir Lancelot.

7. Emma Watson adorned a Calvin Klein made from recycled plastic bottle. Her sustainable, eco-friendly gown was created by Ecoage, who created a 5 piece look from 3 fabrics woven from yarns all made from recycled plastic bottles. Original, elegant and super suave.

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8. Zoe Saldana in a train of multicolored feathers from Dolce and Gabbana. The trademark of D & G is the intricacy of train along with the sheer, lacy corset labelling it one of the boldest looks of the night.

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9. Blake Lively’s pink Burberry princess gown accented with red roses in the end of the train coupled with a cascading cape and sheer, shimmery fabric on the sides.

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10. Karlie Kloss in “Kutouts”. The idea behind the down was to experience an opening of a brand-new Apple product. To unravel the pristine white layers of packaging. This risque sartorial creation by Brandon Maxwell focuses on simplicity, elegance, but also shedding layers and basic proportions. Kloss topped off the outfit with a preistly jacket.

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Since fashion and style is self-expression and experimentation, I don’t want to savagely critique or create a worst list. However, other elegant, daring, and unconventional looks were: Zendaya in Michael Kors, Lily Aldridge in Michael Kors, Lady Gaga in Atelier Versace, Hannah Davis in Zuhair Murad, Mindy Kaling in Tony Burch, and Will I Am in Gucci.

Sugarfina: Aesthete coup de foudre proclivity for luxury candy

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“Why Should Kids Have All the Fun?”, a simple idea that sprouted from a viewing of Willy Wonka and The Chocolate Factory. Sugarfina (derived from the word sugar + “fina”, which is Italian for fine) is known as a luxury candy brand that provides the ultimate adult experience through sophisticated and pristine confectionery delights.

The founders, Rosie and Josh, realized that adults could enjoy fine wine, fancy dinners, classy desserts; however, not extravagant candy. Even a sweet palate connoisseur needs an escape. This escape comes in the form of Sugarfina aka the Tiffany’s of the candy world. With over 140 varieties of posh gummies and chocolates it is easily one of the finest, high-quality, all-natural, and pleasurable artisanal candy experience for grown-ups. Even attracting a plethora of celebrity fans, such as Justin Bieber, Oprah Winfrey, Jessica Alba, and Leonardo DiCaprio.

A couple of weeks ago, I attended the launch party of Sugarfina at Oakbrook Mall and met Rosie and Josh, which was my favorite part of the whole experience (of course the abundance of Prosecco and samplings was brilliant too). But their story is quite beautiful. Both met on Match.com, an idea was conceived on the 3rd date, and they both left their executive jobs to chase this dream. What did they do next? A lot of research, globe-trotting, inventing and fueling creativity through taste and uniqueness—all the while, having each other’s support and partnership. Their business is a more than a candy store or an idea—it’s a love story.

The store itself was visually very pleasing, bright in colors and display and an assortment that appeals to men and women of all ages. As a life-long sweet tooth and choco-aholic, I was literally a wide-eyed 8-year old version of myself, soaking in everything in front of me with much excitement and glee. A truly magical day if you have an addictive proclivity towards the sweeter things in life.

Here are some of my favorites thus far, and I hope to continue building my Sugarfina Favorites Diary:

Blue and White Pearls: beautiful milk chocolate pearls are coated in a mix of shimmery aqua and pearlized white candy shells, so gorgeous they belong in a jewelry box

Champagne Bears: Dom Pérignon Vintage Champagne as sophisticated bears sparkle in flavors of classic Brut and fashionable Rose

Champagne Bubbles: Dressed up in tiny white nonpareils, each juicy little bite bursts with the flavors of the finest champagne. Sophisticated yet playful, you’ll love each bubbly “sip”

Bubbly Bears: sweet and tart sugar crystals for a sophisticated taste that really “pops” 

Peach Bellini: unique peachy hearts filled with a juicy peach center, then dusted in sweet & sour sugar crystals for a mouthwatering taste sensation

Sugar Lips: Kissably-soft and chewy, these sugar lips are dusted in sweet & sour sugar crystals for a lip-smackin’ mouthwatering smooch sense

Martini Olive Almonds: smartly-dressed, chocolate-covered almonds masquerading as cocktail garnishes

Cuba Libre: taste of Old Havana in this refreshing gummy cocktail that contains spiced dark rum paired with bright & bubbly cola for a sweet, spirited flavor with a Caribbean twist

Single Malt Scotch Cordials: highbrow cordials have a liquid center of real scotch for a taste that’s both intoxicating and smooth

Dark Chocolate Sea Salt Caramels: Rich & creamy caramels are dipped in ultra-fine dark chocolate, with just a kiss of sea salt

Espresso Caramels: Rich espresso and dark chocolate are paired with creamy soft caramel for a bite that is utterly buzz-worthy and delicious

 

The Stone Princess

***Usually, don’t ever post stuff like this. Just a GoT-inspired short story. This idea came to me and I wanted to write about it and then of course, share it with the world. It doesn’t have to do with style or fashion like my other posts. But it’s my flaneuse journal aka blog aka writing that I like. Hope you all like it and who knows maybe this could turn into a longer story. 

Once upon a time there was a king and his newly wed bride. The young queen was considered by many the fairest maiden of all the lands and her beauty grew each passing day with dove-like complexion and rose-tinted lips—but so did her vanity. Her one and only flaw; which would one day seep into her happiness. On the eve of their wedding celebration, all the kingdom folk came to the palace bearing gifts and blessings for the happy couple. But soon enough the aura of celebrations and joy turned into darkness and horror as the wicked witch flew in. She too came bearing a gift, but in the form of a curse: together in union they may always be, but never to experience the joy of parenthood. With a malevolent smirk she flew away leaving the king consoling his weeping bride.

The wicked witch was not always a dark soul. For many, many years ago, she was a beautiful girl with a soft heart that turned cold when the King’s Father destroyed her land. The war brought by the neighboring kingdom killed her family, rescinded her dreams, and hollowed her soul. She fled to save herself and encountered a sorcerer—from whom she learned magic and wizardry. And through the years she used her magic in spiteful ways causing her soul to darken even more. But this is a tale for another day.

The news of the curse spread across the lands and the devastated king and queen called upon all the elves, fairies, and magical dwarves for a resolution—however, they could fine none. The king’s hand, also his childhood friend, had once heard of an old erudite apothecary that lived deep in the forest in a giant sequoia tree. The King and Queen took their carriage to the tree and plead the apothecary to use his wisdom and power to end their woes. The apothecary told them of a potion conjured up by the tears of a weeping willow.

Legend has it that a maiden fell in love with a duke, who promised her marriage. But instead he bedded her and broke his promise. The unwed maiden became pregnant and was banished by the townspeople. Alone she lived in an abandoned hut near a cliff for nine months. One night when the moon was big and blue, her baby boy was born but without any life. Stricken by her loss, the mother grieved and carried the baby towards the cliff. As she jumped off, her hair tangled with a branch and prevented her from falling—but the baby fell out of her arms in the waves below her. Stoic and motionless she lay there, near the edge till her last breath until she withered away into ash. In the same soil grew a willow tree that weeps every blue moon and has the power to vanquish the witch’s curse.

The apothecary gave them the potion but with it entailed a condition:

‘1 drop in tea, a dusky, simple girl you’ll see,

2 drops in milk, so strong and brave he will be,

3 drops in honey, girls as sweet-tempered as doves on lily pads,

4 drops in ambrosia, blessed with the most kindest and fairest lads’

But with each drop the queen consumed, she paid a price: her beauty would fade. After all, all magic comes with a price. Struck with vanity, she could not depart from her beauty. The foolish queen did not realize that beauty is finite but a mother’s love is timeless. Instead of drinking the entire vile and having many children, she had one drop in tea. And months later, gave birth to a very plain dusky girl. The queen now a mother felt the painstaking grief of her vanity, the king assured her that their love would not wane for their only child. Alas, the curse had been broken and the whole kingdom was invited for a feast in their daughter’s name.

Having heard that her curse was no more, the wicked witch fumed in anger. She sought out Tiresias, the blind seer, whose prophecies had never failed anyone. ‘This child will end your reign”, he said. Threatened by the infant, the witch sent her two-headed oracle to the palace to kill the child. But the apothecary most certain with the witch’s nature had warned the king of the impending peril. The two-headed oracle was captured by the guards and imprisoned. Angered by this, the witch sent three singing serpents: “Toils and troubles, doom shall come. Your kingdom will fall and everyone will succumb. When the clock strikes twelve on the princess’s 21st, she will breathe her last and die. The reign will ensue; none will turn a blind eye. The witch will rule, the witch will rule. Toils and troubles, toils and troubles.”

Fearing for the princess’s life, the queen and king decided to hide her—they sent her away with the king’s hand, Alfven; the only man the king trusted to raise his daughter. Damien took the princess to a tower far, far away from the castle. The king and queen sent a baby owl and dragon as her companions, her protectors, and a token of love. For the next 20 years, the kingdom longed for their heir and the princess lived in secret as a commoner. But she was trained in swordsmanship, archery, and horseback. Alfven, who was the only parent she knew, taught her many things, but the most important lesson he taught her: “You must always protect life. Never harm a living soul. You must raise the sword to defend your honor, integrity, and the innocent. But when you take a life, you lose the light within.”

A few months before her 21st birthday, the princess robed in commoner’s garbs, was frolicking about with Pieyro, her golden owl deep in the enchanted forest. There her eyes saw a golden carriage. Amazed by the sight, she peered inside. “Halt, you thief!” The handsome prince, whose carriage she was lurking through, had mistaken her for a thief. Caught by surprise, the princess masked her face with a russet cravat. But before a battle could ensure, prince’s eyes met the princess’s—he was awestricken with the simplicity of her charm and ferociousness in her eyes. He lowered his sword and unveiled the garment to a dusky, ordinary girl with hair as black as a moonless night. And her having never seen such a wholesome face, she was intrigued by his demeanor.

As the hours turned into days and the days into weeks, they found themselves growing attached to each other to the point where each passing moment of separation seemed unbearable. The prince began to spend more and more time with the princess—sometimes sneaking into her tower late at night. He introduced her to a world of art, music and poetry and she presented him with the joys of the mundane, common life. He fell in love with her as plain and simple as she was. Having grown accustomed to fair maidens vying for his affections, they only had beauty the sung in skin deep, but no character, no fire, no depth. He loved her for everything she was and nothing more. And she loved him.

Soon after, the princess revealed to Alfven about her feelings for the prince. Alfven knew it was not his right to break her heart, but he had to tell her the truth about her true identity. He divulged the whole truth about her real parents, the curse, cruel plans of the evil witch, and a kingdom waiting for the return of the heir to end the reign of evil. Realizing the sacrifice of her parents and Alfven, the princess had to return as their savior. But she also knew she had to protect the man she loved from the perils of her own destiny. That night, like any other, the prince climbed the tower to see the princess, but she had long left with Alfven to her kingdom—leaving behind not a single trace of her existence.

After 20 years, the bells of the kingdom rung loudly with joy. Their princess had arrived. Her parents were now old, tired kindred spirits—their youth rekindled with the time spent with their daughter. In a fortnight, she would be 21 and as little time that was left they wanted to make up for the last 20 years. In the midst of the celebrations, the princess and prince met again. At first, he rebuked her presence, but then she told him about the curse. He held her hand and promised to fight alongside her. And under a sky painted with bright moon and many stars, they declared their love and shared true love’s kiss—tender and passionate and completely consumed with each other in that one moment.

The wise, brave princess decided to lead the army towards the witch to spare the blood of the innocent and the young. On her horse she rode, with her owl on one shoulder and her dragon soaring high above, shielding the princess from impending, unforeseeable harm. With the prince by her side, the battled black ghouls, hideous flying creatures, blind hounds with sharp teeth, giant beasts with long tails and three-headed lions. With each day, her army grew smaller and the hurdle more gruesome. One night, she overheard a paladin telling another the folklore of the witch. The princess’s warrior heart softened thinking of the atrocities the witch faced. After all, the witch was once a good soul and deep within all that darkness a little light must remain that could be saved. Before heading towards the dark fortress, the prince and princess consummated their love—moving like the blaze of fire flames in the wild summer air. Not knowing what tomorrow would bring. Since that night was the eve of her 21st.

On a throne made of dead carcasses and bones, the evil witch sat, anticipating the foolish princess and her prince. The singing serpent rested alongside the arm of the throne and as the princess climbed up the long series of stone steps, he sang: “The girl returns, the girl returns. Dunce to us misled in valor, tonight she shall burn.” The princess comes to the witch in hopes of peace and change. She asks her to excuse the misdeeds of her forebears and to end this reign of revenge. But the wicked witch laughed at her attempts and stuck in her stubborn, arrogant ways refused to acquiesce to the girl and the prophecy of the seer. The witch raised her magical staff to attack the princess, but the prince had intervened. The plume of magic hit his chest, down he fell, unconscious and lifeless he remained.

“No!” The princess had screamed as her love refused to move. She drew her sword and with all her might and utterly consumed by anger and vengeance, she hurled it towards the witch. The blade pierced straight through the witch’s heart—hardening it like black onyx and then turning it into ash. The prophecy had been finally been fulfilled. But the princess had forgotten the wise words of Alfven, “You must always protect life. Never harm a living soul. You must raise the sword to defend your honor, integrity, and the innocent. But when you take a life, you lose the light within.”

It was then that all the evil and darkness that left the witch’s body now transferred into the princess. Her pure, soft soul was now darken and embodied with malice. Her gentle aura was coarse; the features rough, her long, dark hair had turned white as cinders. The princess took hold of the magical staff and summoned its power towards her. When the prince had awoken a few hours later, he cried in horror and disbelief—his love, his princess was transformed into stone.

The princess trapped the evil power within by cursing herself to be a stone statue that no one could ever destroy or shatter—the evil power never to be released or used to harm any other being. The prince took the stone princess back to her kingdom and family, and for many centuries to come she remained there as a symbol of heroism. The prince spent the rest of his life serving her people and every night he visited the stone princess—sitting with her in complete solitude.

This was the story of a princess considered by many as plain and simple, not known for her beauty or great ambitions, but for her bravery, wisdom, and kindness. Beauty takes form in many ways–it is not always the physical, visible beauty that is the most important. But the one the radiates from within. The story of the ultimate sacrifice: a girl that perished to end evil and save the lives of those she loved.

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Chicago Fashion Show FW2016: Hub of the Sartorial Melting Pot Style

New York, LA, London, Paris, Moscow–these places command an unique style that is reflective of the people and cultures that habitat the urban, rustic and pastoral spaces. However, Chicago is different. It is the fulcrum of multitudes of diverse styles, fashions and ideas intermingling to produce something new. It’s unique but represented of the designer’s and artisan’s personality, socio-cultural background, and experiences.

Chicago has never been a major pioneer or birth place to popular fashion trends, style statements, or renounce designers. But in the years to come, it will surely continue to be a melting pot of talent–Where people from different generations share a common interest in the diversity of style.

About 2 weeks ago, FashionBar hosted a Fall/Winter 2016 Collection at The Drake Hotel, showcasing looks from 5 starkly distinctive designers.

 

 

Christopher DiGiorgio: Futuristic American Street Style

Easy to wear sprinkled with this grunge afterthought. As DiGiorgio states in his own words, “Fashion is life to me. Fashion is the expression of the archetypal symbols of existence. My designs help free me from space and time.” This Omaha talent takes over the “street style” genre with a revolutionary vision.

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Humane Envy: Feminine American Style with a Purpose

Humane Envy emphasizes clothing for women that come from all walks of life. Femininity must be embraced in all shapes and sizes. Fashion is about feeling beautiful in your own skin and radiating confidence into the world.

Furthermore, Envy believes that style must surpass the materialistic and physical and reflect morals, well-being of others, and compassion.

Her clothing speaks to that all-American working girl in a bold, colorful silhouette.

Laura Daili Vilnius: Pure Lithuanian Functionality with Flare of Minimalistic

Vilnius is an international fashion designer with an edgy aura. For her, a modern woman must be original and keep it simple. Less is always more. Stick to basics. Be Minimal in approach but embrace quality. Her statement: “Fashion is delicate like glass and infinite like time.”LAURA-DAILI-VILNIUS-foto-Neringa-Rekasiute-model-Karolina-Krilaviciute-1

Kristina Giedra: Classic and Modern High Quality Lithuanian Creativity

Giedra’s creations have the same expressive resemblance to Tony Ward’s collections. Ward’s idea: “A tribute to women and their femininity, with the taste and distinctive charm of a timeless style.”  Giedra has a similar mantra, where design and innovation must bring glamour, excitement, and class to a woman’s charm.

Nadia Dovidi: Vintage Russian Couture and Chiffon

“Good clothes open all doors.” A popular belief in Russia and a statement that illustrates that Russian fashion resides in good clothing, good presentation, and good standards. Dovidi’s creations are flowy, colorful, marked with floral prints and big bows, hand-sewn chiffon and silk ties–all emulating the balance between grace and conservative proportions. There is still a subtle hint of fun but restrain in structural rigidness.

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The Girl Next Door: Touch of Vintage

Spring Collection: LookBook 2

The “Girl Next Door” Look is the all-American archetype that represents kindness, modesty, marked with humbleness, and a typical honest woman that surrounds herself in a romantic fantasy. She is every man’s dream that is often taken for granted and overlooked. Her admirability and attractiveness arises from her wholesomeness–she is not an object by any means.

The idea of the “Girl Next Door” was a WW2 propaganda contrivance that idolized a woman adorned by love, separation from her beau, healthy complexion, intelligent, virtuous, and strong willed. This kind of a woman has many layers and has evolved multiplied times to become an ubiquitous modern look. The appeal: she is an unattainable but irresistible.

Evolution Through Time:

  1. Hollywood
    • Pier Angeli: charmer, endearing midnight brown eyes, aspirational, the kind of girl that tugs at James Dean’s heart strings
    • Debbie Reynolds: Innocent, doe-eyed, naive but fierce, quirky, waltzes in the same spotlight as Gene Kelly and Fred Astaire
    • Meg Ryan: Stuck in turmoil but adorable, cute with a purpose, beautiful azure eyes with bright dreams
    • Lily Collins and Emily Watson: Smart, determined, focused, driven, striking a balance with humility, sensuality, and morals
  2. Literature
    • Eliante from Misanthrope: content on not being center of attention, witty, observant, delivers a well thought opinion, represents a sense of moral and social stability, one of the few women that is not hypocritical in behavior or deceitful by nature
    • Jane Fairfax from Emma:Beautiful and accomplished in all ways a woman can be in the Georgian-Regency era, reserved, humble, delicate, firmness of character, a high sense of decorum and morality
    • Daisy Buchanan from The Great Gatsby: beautiful and delicate as her name, but a heavily indecisive and flawed woman. To Gatsby she is sheer perfection: a real man’s dream: charming aura, sophisticated, and paragon of wealth and aristocracy. She is capable of affection but also feeble, shallow, and fickle. She projects “The Girl Next Door” ideals from Gatsby’s perspective but does not match the ideals in reality.
    • Cordelia from King Lear: Kind by nature and forgiving, she reals deeply and truly and projects an angel-like ambience. She is not a superfluous woman nor deceitful.
  3. Fashion
    • Be Nonchalant, Mantra of the 1930s: “A careful carelessness”
      • Achieve appearance of smart indifference through wide brimmed hats, frocks, attention to strips and details; perfect proportions
    • It started and ended with a white dress, 1950s: “All consuming fascination”
      • The brightly colored era with Marilyn’s underwire bra and softly pleated William Travilla dress. Good figures, curvy accentuation, pleasant demeanour & era of the 1st bikini.
    • Simple and unbroken, Big Hair and Dreams of 1980s: “Boasts an unique distinction”
      • Harem pants, halternecks, and introduction of the body-suits. Women sought out bright blouses and tailored made pant suits. Following their dreams in crop tops and leggings.
    • Present-day: Back to basics and touch of vintage
      • My Look Book entails: hint of needle lace made popular by the Venetians, a strappy, minimal frill bralette that originally trended in the 90s, sequined, disco styled skirt with a little bit of the 60s and a lot of the 70s. All brought together by long waves that hit the stage in the 80s. A homage to “The Girl Next Door”-the unrequited dream with vintage nuances.

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She is everything to me
The unrequited dream
A song that no one sings
The unattainable, she’s a myth that I have to believe in

The Boho Queen: Touch of Romance

Spring Collection: LookBook 1

To be Bohemian is to be free. Haute Bohemianism is associated with anti-establishment, frugality & unconventional lifestyle.

This look in particular accentuates a touch of romance with a dash of heart break and a eccentric, free thinking “Litterateur”, aka an artist that sways into the arcane musical and literary pursuits.

My first impression of the Boho concept is actually from an unusual source: Charlotte Bronte’s Jane Eyre.

“Do you think I am an automaton? — a machine without feelings? and can bear to have my morsel of bread snatched from my lips, and my drop of living water dashed from my cup? Do you think, because I am poor, obscure, plain, and little, I am soulless and heartless? You think wrong! — I have as much soul as you — and full as much heart! And if God had gifted me with some beauty and much wealth, I should have made it as hard for you to leave me, as it is now for me to leave you. I am not talking to you now through the medium of custom, conventionalities, nor even of mortal flesh: it is my spirit that addresses your spirit; just as if both had passed through the grave, and we stood at God’s feet, equal — as we are!”

The quote above: When Jane examines the workings of her heart, when she dispels societal boundaries on preconceived notions that ideal women are meek & docile, when she stands as an equal, as a free spirit, as a human being with little means but completely in love with herself and Rochester. This is my definition to be Boho. Set aside the materialistic, be bare and let the light of vulnerability shine through the natural complexion.

It also means to be wanderers and the adventurers in life. To live on the edge of reason and cornerstone of passion. Gelett Burgess narrates:

To take the world as one finds it, the bad with the good, making the best of the present moment—to laugh at Fortune alike whether she be generous or unkind—to spend freely when one has money, and to hope gaily when one has none—to fleet the time carelessly, living for love and art—this is the temper and spirit of the modern Bohemian in his outward and visible aspect. It is a light and graceful philosophy, but it is the Gospel of the Moment, this exoteric phase of the Bohemian religion; and if, in some noble natures, it rises to a bold simplicity and naturalness, it may also lend its butterfly precepts to some very pretty vices and lovable faults.

Finally, it means someone with few attachments to social bonds and indulges in free love–not the misconstrued idea of promiscuity, but as my style look book suggests: straying away from oppression, innocent virtue balanced with personal freedom, touch of sensuality juxtaposed with a broken heart. It is natural grace, making no apologizes, and not letting one’s eyes or head hide away in shame. The Boho Queen style is a godsend to Spring Fashion because it is all about liberation and awakening.

 

To Be Milanese: Pret-a-Porter Posh

Carlo Maria Maggi, a 17th century writer and poet, is famously known for many literary works and manuscripts; one in particular being his Mask of Meneghini. This is a socio-cultural manifesto and allegorical personification of the Milanese people, where they are portrayed as: “humble, frank, honest, full of wisdom & common sense, loud in the adversities, sensitive & generous workers.” Milanese way of life by nature is devoted to sobriety and simplicity. Milanese fashion is akin to and evolved in conjunction with the lifestyle status of its people. In last month’s issue of Elle, Milan was featured as one of the “Around the Fashion World in Four Looks”. See excerpt below:

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Historically, Milan evolved as an epicenter of fashion through the Middle Ages and Renaissance–originally deriving its inspiration from Paris. But instead of the “haute couture” culture of Paris, Milan established itself as Alta Moda “pret-a-porter”, which means high-end “ready to wear”. The elegant and classical sartorial style trends are reminiscent of Italy’s artistic origins and enriched textile past.

For centuries, Milan was known as the city of tailors & seamstresses and the fashion consciousness emphasized the quality of cloths, moderate ornamentation, and a sombre attitude. The  modern “street style” impression is manufactured from the traditional and diverse trend-setting Milanese fashion artisans.

Below: Top 12 Milano Street Styles for MFW Spring 2016:

 

When I chose to re-create this in honor of Milan Fashion Week, my aim was to stick to the basics. High quality fabric, vintage hand bag, minimal accessories, and a simple soft pick. Something that mixes well with “street style”, but also has a “jolt of intrigue”. It’s everything that isn’t ostentatious and pretentious because the Milanese fashion identity is rooted in a strong sense of proportion and color, an unmessy chic palette, and embossed with the small element of unexpected boudoir dressing.

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Shivani Pithadi Photography

The Grace of a Woman

“After a while you learn
The subtle difference between
Holding a hand and chaining a soul
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t always mean security.

And you begin to learn
That kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises
And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes ahead
With the grace of woman, not the grief of a child

And you learn
To build all your roads on today
Because tomorrow’s ground is
Too uncertain for plans
And futures have a way 
Of falling down in mid flight

After a while you learn
That even sunshine burns if you get too much
So you plant your own garden
And decorate your own soul
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers

And you learn 
That you really can endure
That you are really strong 
And you really do have worth 
and you learn and you learn
With every goodbye, you learn”

Veronica A. Shoffstall

Every now and then, my mind ponders back to this poem. It taught me that there are many kinds of love in this world; however, not the same kind twice. As we pass through life, we meet with pain and loss. People come and they go; our hearts clinging onto possibilities that are more fantasy than reality. All of this is transcended by a truth: we love and hold on the longest  when there is no hope at all.

The child-like innocence of a young girl is transformed into the grace of a woman when she transitions from a fool who loves all to a wise soul that loves herself first. She recognizes her self-worth to be independent of faux liaisons. Her passions and prerogatives change as she matures–head held up high and eyes searching the sky for new dreams. When she sees her flaws, she won’t let that moor her down; but it will propel her corybantic impulses and buoyancy of nature. She thinks and plans for herself, learns that wounded she may be but not feeble or brittle; and there is so much grace and dignity in saying goodbye to those have used her, traduced her, and regarded her with so little respect.

As I flourish with experience and wisdom, as well as from follies, I see that the grace of a woman is the paramount essence of her style and sensibility. There are many ways to lead your life, but only the rarest, purest, and bravest woman will do so with a silent strength and calm augustness.

 

Cover Image: Alexandria Odekrik Photography

 

 

My Mother’s Style Book: Portraits of Real Women

“A strong woman understands that the gifts such as logic, decisiveness, and strength are just as feminine as intuition and emotional connection. She values and uses all of her gifts.”

You know those little luxuries that seem so mundane that we tend to overlook their significance. For instance, going to work in your own car, being able to obtain a college education, trying out for the basketball team, or going on a date without a male chaperon. These are all the things my mother never had or had to struggle for and her mother could scarcely fathom of these ideas. However, she was entirely determined that I shall have all that she could not and then some. It is the sacrifices of those women that are closest to us that tend to slip our minds yet these very actions have the most profound affects on our lives–probably if altered could have changed the entire course of our lives in an adverse manner. So today, on International Women’s Day I chose to write about the woman whose dreams and aspirations took a backseat so that mine could have center stage: My mother.

“Women have always been the strong ones of the world. The men are always seeking from women a little pillow to put their heads down on. They are always longing for the mother who held them as infants.”

Historically, women have always faced the downside of advantage and society’s austerity and authoritarianism created grave injustices and inequalities. Throughout centuries, the intellectual and rebellious have been persecuted, while women’s role in society have usually been confined to the domestic domain. My grandmother was betrothed to my grandfather by the tender age of 11,married at 14, and had her first child at 16. However, she has always been the pillar of strength and courage–the backbone of the family. Her style has always been benevolence to less fortunate and sternness to the avarice. When I ask her where she gets her toughness, she always says, “From within.” The thing with women is that, we are afraid and sometimes terrified, but it doesn’t stop us. It’s as if we are born with it intrinsically–allowing us to muster the courage to raise our voices in times of disparity and powerlessness. For every male chauvinist and misogynist that said women couldn’t, there was an Alice Paul, a Lucy Burns, a Joan of Arc, an Eleanor Roosevelt, a Gloria Steinem, an Amelia Earhart, and so forth proving that women can. From the Suffragettes to the earliest Feminists, women have always displayed a strength of character in the worst of times and in the age of foolishness.

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“We need women at all levels, including the top, to change the dynamic, reshape the conversation, to make sure women’s voices are heard and heeded, not overlooked and ignored.”

Yet at times, it feels that growth for women is very stagnant. The glass ceiling is still prevalent, people are scared to be identified as feminists, and social media tends to create abnormal and unattainable beauty and image ideals that instill insecurity and crack the purity of innocence and self-respect. I look at my mother and see a woman who has worked every single day of her life and receives the best performance reviews among her colleagues yet is paid $4 less than the men in her department. This same woman campaigned for the position of the president of the student council at her university in India and won–twice. Not only beating out all of her male competition, but by a fairly large margin too; however, she was overlooked for a supervisor promotion because they felt she might be “too soft” and not a true leader. We take aside one day to celebrate and acknowledge women, but then the rest of the year the issues sustain ignorance. Everyone always says, you have to be patient, women have to be patience. But when you look back to the beginning of time–women are the only ones that have always been patience. So when I still see inequality, lack of proper education for girls, women locked into predetermined societal roles, and an absence of choice, I ask why? Why do women need to be patient for basic human rights?

“A woman is like a tea bag–you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water.

I came across an album of my mother’s photographs that genuinely deserve to be in an issue of Harper’s Bazaar or Vintage Vogue. When I first came across these years ago, I was flabbergasted because I thought she had a secret life–like a fashionista or a model.

She’s a rebel. Cut her hair short when the norm considered long, black hair a standard beauty ideal. She loved high waist trousers, assortment of colors, fitted blouses, and tiny belts. Yet she always projected her Indian identity with modern silk and chiffon saris or salwars. Her style book is her own. She did not walk with the trend, but had her own trend. This was probably some time between 20-30 years ago, she was the wee age of 22 or 23 yet definitely more confident than I am now at times. In the picture where she has henna on her hands, that is her wedding day and she woke up and wore trousers and plaid because that’s who she is. She pushes the envelope and stays true to herself. How does she do? Where does she get it from?

Her confidence stems from a difficult childhood and maturing before her time. Some will say that the true strength of a woman is best tested in arduous times. It’s true. She grow up without a mother and her father passed away when she was 16, and lived in an orthodox society that was struggling to adapt to the liberal views of the 80s generation. Her dreams were many times considered too beyond her means and she learned to let go. When I ask her if she has any regrets, she always says no because she always found happiness in whatever she received and did not ponder on the things she couldn’t have. Her mantra: “Keep it simple. Minimalistic is the best route. The more complex and complicated you make your life, the more you have to untangle. True happiness is finding contentment with the small surprises life throws at you. But you must learn to appreciate the small things before life can give you something grand.”

“You don’t have to be pretty. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to civilization. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked ‘female’.” 

She’s my trailblazer. Our mothers are. Whatever confidence we have, it comes from them.

My mother always told me when I was young that my role in life was never to be JUST someone’s wife or someone’s mother or this or that. It was to be whoever I wanted, when I wanted. Granted, as an Indian girl in my mid-20s I am perfectly aware and accustomed to societal pressures to marriage–but I have been raised to know that my identity can be career-driven or home-drive or both. But essentially it is my choice. This is what are mothers instill in us. The ability to be your own kind of  woman, make rational choices, mostly be selfless, but at times to be selfish.

I know that there are many things my mother could have probably done if she didn’t have children. But that was her choice. She wanted her first born to be a daughter and she promised herself that her daughter would never have to relinquish her dreams or desires that way she had to. She wanted me to choose the life I live, the partner I share it with, and build my very own legacy in the world. All the things that I have today is because somewhere down the line, she held some of her dreams back. And my mother received the very little that she did because her mother held some of her wishes back. Every predecessor generation has sacrificed so much so that today we can appreciate the comforts and conveniences they could not.

In essence, always in vogue: mothers. Always pure, always dreamers, always fluffing our aura and setting us up to succeed. Call them. Not just today, but every day. Hold them because now they are old and tired and deserve a gentle remainder that they matter. Be patience when they ask for help with technology or basically anything for she was the one that taught you how to walk and stayed up long, late nights when you had fevers and chills. And be very kind because you’ll always be her baby.

Honor the women in your life and make an effort to learn about their sacrifices. Also, every woman has her own fashion diaries. Find the ones that belong to your mother and garner a sense of her youthful style and personality.

PS: Please share anything interesting you find. I’m always interested in portraits of real women and their inspirational life stories. Happy Women’s Day.

 

 

 

TreStique: Beauty Meets Simple

Beauty should be simple, after all the ultimate sophistication comes from simplicity. Recently, I came across a highly underrated brand of lip crayons that radiates a vibrant, bolder look. At one end is a matte lip crayon and at the other a shiny lip balm infused with cocoa butter, monhoi tahiti butter, peach oil and olive fruit oil. Practically, it’s confident colors with a smooth lip balm that softens, protects and regenerates lips. (A nice selection for the frosty and windy Chicago winters.)

Below are my 4 favorite tones that work well in different scenarios:

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  1. Barcelona Bright Berry: It’s pink, which means it’s fun. Nice for a day out with girls or a beach visit. Instant mood brightener that sets you in with “vacay vibes”.
  2. Florence Fig: Nude Brown that can be used for a more exotic, tan look or something simple for the minimalists.
  3. Chile Red: Sultry and sizzling. Perfect for a hot date, but also classy enough for the Opera.
  4. Belize Bordeaux: My office pick. Plum meets burgundy meets pink. All the shades that go well with whites, blacks, blues, and grays.

Simple yet bold. Everything that a woman is and should be. Positively, a handbag necessity.

Featured: Chile Red (Told ye, sultry for a date. And classy for the Opera.)

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Alexandria Odekirk Photography